Earl Nightingale, the famous motivational speaker and also known as the “Dean of Personal Development”, had called Attitude as the Magic word. He explains in his landmark program Lead the Field, that our Attitude towards the Life determines the Life’s Attitude towards us. The Law of Cause and Effect states that every cause has an effect or the result. So if have a poor attitude, we will get poor results. The poor results will reinforce the poor attitude and we get more and more such poor results. On the contrary, if we have a good attitude, we get good results and so does every successful person around us – because they have a good attitude. What we receive from Life, what we accomplish or fail to accomplish is due to our own Attitude.
Napoleon Hill, the famous author of “Think and Grow Rich”, once asked Andrew Carnegie, a billionaire from 19th century – “Why is that he is earning so much money, while there are so many people struggling to just get by”. Andrew Carnegie replied that it was an Attitude thing that separated him from the masses. He demanded Riches in definite terms, he had a plan to acquire that riches and he executed this plan.
While the Dictionary meaning of Attitude is – manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, especially of the mind; I like the way Bob Proctor explains Attitude – “Your attitude is the composite of your thoughts, feelings and actions, which in turn produces your results”. Now, if you are anything like me, you would read this over and over. Attitude is a composite of Thoughts, Feelings and Actions. When we meet a very nice person, we do not say – “Hey, I like your Thoughts” or “I like that way you feel about life” or “I like the various Actions you take”. We just say – “I like your Attitude”. As it was explained in the dictionary meaning as well, Attitude is the orientation of the mind. All Thoughts originate in your mind. The Thought causes the Feeling and Feelings provoke you to take Action. Action causes a Reaction / Result. Hence your Attitude has the roots that go deep inside your mind. To change your Attitude, you must begin by changing your Thoughts.
William James once said – “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”
Hence, to have a good Attitude, we must have good thoughts – good thoughts about ourselves , good thoughts about others, and good thoughts irrespective of the circumstances. Attitude is the reflection of a person – What goes inside, shows outside. If we are not good to ourselves and we doubt our capability, we fear to take action and we keep thinking others can achieve but we cannot, we will always have poor thoughts and result in poor attitude. Also, if we think bad about others and find faults in them, we will be generating bad thoughts and as an effect will experience bad results ourselves. These are some of the key things to remember about Attitude:-
– Attitude will determine the Results we get in our Life. Bad Attitude – Bad Results, Good Attitude – Great Results.
– Attitude towards others, will determine their attitude towards us.
– In order to improve our Attitude, we must Think, Act and Talk in the manner as if we already are in possession of the good that we desire.
– Attitude is not a result of Success, it is Success with is a result of good Attitude.
Since our mind can hold 1 thought at a time, we must think constructive thoughts. We can master this by patiently creating a new habit of thinking positive thoughts. Each time we notice ourselves thinking a negative thought or talking with anyone on a negative topic, we should replace it by a positive one. We may be able to do this only 5% of the time and gradually increasing it to 10%, 30%, 70%, 90% and then it would have become a habit.
Here are some simple steps that can develop a good attitude:-
- Understand that we are powerful being and there is tremendous potential and talent within each one of us
- Do not waste time in thinking poor thoughts
- Look for the best in others. Even if you are upset with him / her, think about 1 thing that is good in them and keep thinking about that thing
- Radiate a wellbeing attitude
- Treat everyone you come in contact with as an important person
- Last but not least, be alter of new ideas that will flow into you and act on them.
We are in charge of the Attitude (“Cause”), the Rewards (“Effect”) will take care of themselves. Success can be guaranteed, if we live in a Certain Way.
May you find the success, happiness and peace you deserve!